i was talking to my friend Nonie today and the topic came up of the feelings we went through when we first started wearing hijab.
Nonie was telling me how she walked into a shop wearing a long tunic (she lives in Egypt by the way) and while she was looking at clothes this mother and daughter were shopping. The daughter (who was not in hijab) was trying on some pretty skanky looking clothes and the whole time the mother was looking at Nonie, up and down, with a look of pity on her face at the way Nonie was dressed.
This brought up the whole conversation of how some 'MUSLIM' people try to persuade girls to take off their hijabs by saying it isnt necessary or fashionable.
I was once told to take of my abaya because it wasnt fashionable and the young girls my age don't wear abaya - thats only reserved for old fat women!
I seriously dont know how people who call themselves Muslim look down on girls who choose to wear hijab and wear it correctly! How can they look down upon us and talk to us about removing our hijab when our God, who they also claim to submit to, orders us to wear it!?!
How can they choose shaytan over Allah?
How can our brothers and sisters in Islam prefer for a believing woman to to be uncovered, wearing skanky-tight-revealing clothing rather than looking modest & following Allah's commandment? And Why? So they feel more comfortable with the fact that you will be looking like them - A lost sheep following the wrong path down the Mountain?
I just dont get it. I guess it all goes back to that thing we know as Shaytan. He and his soldiers whisper in our ears that hijab is uncool, not stylish, not modern, not sexy and once he succeeds in winning over a person's mind he then whispers in their ear to go and convince the other believing, God fearing people about the same thing.
- Some muslim, non-covered women will look down on you for being covered, thinking you look old fashioned.
- Some muslim men will look down on you for not looking like a sex goddess - for not showing off your curves and beautiful hair - that they so desperately want to see. They look down on you because you refuse to be their eye candy.
- Some non-muslims will look down on you because to them you look strange, scary and are not a walking mirror of themselves.
- EVEN some 'hijabies' will look down on you because although you both wear a scarf on your head - you personally choose to extend your hijab to your chest, covering your entire body loosely and choose not to make the mistake of wearing a scarf and trying to be physically sexy and trendy at the same time.
I want to make clear here that it is perfectly fine to look good within limits. By this i mean it is halal and recommended for us to present ourselves in a way that shows we are well-groomed, polished and respectable, while at the same time covering in a way that pleases Allah. How do we know it pleases Allah? By following his orders left to us in the Quran and following the Sunnah - not following the mere opinions of others. And when i am talking about girls following fashions, trying to be trendy, i am talking about those that blindly follow what society says it fashionable when it clearly breaks what is Islamic Hijab - like the Spanish style Hijab that is prevalent in Egypt (the style that doesnt cover the neck or chest and just covers the hair) or the Khaleeji/Iranian Style that allows hair styled outside of the hijab:::
I remember when i first had the hijab explosion in my heart and decided to wear it i put it on. I told my then fiancee (now husband) that i had decided to wear it. the next day when i was getting dressed i look in the mirror and was like "what am i doing?"
"I cant wear it, i wont look attractive, im young - i should look young - not like a dried up old woman, i wont look stylish in hijab - take it off - take it off - take it off"
Thankfully i said to myself through my over-riding doubts "i have made this big decision, its too early to have these doubts, i need to be strong, have faith in Allah and stick it through".
And it was one of the strongest things i ever did. Telling other people NO can be hard.. telling yourself NO is even harder... but later realising you told Shaytan to "get lost" and it worked, is very comforting and a very rewarding feeling.
And if anyone dares to tell you to take of hijab because its not stylish and "you would look more beautiful without it" then i recommend saying to them "No! I respect Allah and I respect my beauty!" We dont have to prove our beauty to anyone.
And never let anyone tell you that you are wrong or feel like you are doing something bad when you know you are right to follow Allah.
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